When did I become captain sensible?

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I’d like to be silly, daft, funny, have a laugh. But recently I’ve had to become, as my hubby calls me ‘ captain sensible’.

The thing is I’m his carer. I don’t like thinking about it but he has mental health issues and I have to keep a level head to keep him safe. But I don’t like it. I have to negotiate with him when he has manic ideas. I have to think through what he can do. I sometimes feel like a jailer. And yet I’m being sensible. I don’t think he should go and find a newt and put it in the pond, or buy another three bicycles to add to his collection of ten he already has. Or come home with another tree for our wooded garden. Some things are simple negotiation. Others are confusing. He buys ornaments we don’t need. He spends money in one particular shop on stuff that’s basically junk. But he’s happy. But they must see him coming… I worry about some of the things he declares he’s going to do. I won’t discuss them here. I can’t describe the anxiety he goes through every day, over things I would call trivial. I try and hold it all together and then live my life on top of that..

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6 thoughts on “When did I become captain sensible?

  1. He’s lucky to have you being Captain Sensible on his behalf. Sounds like you have the nice balance of understanding his behaviour inside out but not trivialising his anxiety or overdoing the policing of things he does (even if they do drive you to distraction inside)

    Just hope you’re doing OK and know where to go and how to get support if and when needed. You have the hardest job on Earth bar none that’s for sure xx

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  2. It sounds like you are doing a wonderful job being there, being who he needs you to be. Remember to take some time for yourself though, time to relax, and just be. All the best, Jo

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