Friends?

Write about a time when you didn’t take action but wish you had. What would you do differently?

When I eventually found out a so called friend had tried to have an affair with my hubby I was shocked. My hubby told me about it because we had had an argument about the way she spoke about him ( clearly because he had rejected her).

It took a while to sink in, and we broke off the friendship after that. But the signs had been there before. She was always round our house when I was at work, ostensibly because she had commuted back on the train and called at our house on the way home for a rest (she would walk back from the station). Often I would give her a lift from our house, and we would chat. She kept saying that she was not a good person, but I reassured her. Now I think about it she was probably trying to confess about her behaviour.

When hubby died a couple of years later she rang me up and asked if we could be friends again! I don’t know if she was aware of my hubby telling me what she had tried to do. But I could not bare to say anything and just hung the phone up on her!

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4 thoughts on “Friends?

  1. There was a time during college when a classmate of mine was clearly struggling with the material and often sat alone, looking overwhelmed. I noticed it several times but didn’t say anything, assuming someone else would reach out or that they might not want help. Later in the semester, they dropped the course, and I found out they had been going through a tough time, both academically and personally.

    Looking back, I wish I had taken just a moment to offer support—whether it was help with assignments, joining a study group, or simply checking in. It wouldn’t have taken much, and even a small gesture might have made a big difference.

    If I could go back, I would act immediately instead of hesitating. I’ve since learned to trust that instinct and step up, even in small ways. Sometimes, being present and kind is more impactful than we realize.

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  2. My second husband cheated on me numerous times. I didn’t know. My friends knew and had (obliquely) tried to tell me. If I were you, I wouldn’t make friends with this person. We don’t have to be friends with everyone.

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